Since becoming involved in BDSM and D/s lifestyles, I learned that many people have this idea that D/s has to be presented a certain way to be considered a real D/s.
Ok, take that giant stick out of your tushes. Fantasy yes. Real life, 24/7 probably not. No relationship will ever look the same.
People are at various stages in their relationships and there will be lots of learning and growth.
If you can’t accept that as the reality and nature of any relationship that involves individuals, sorry, not my problem. You’ve demonstrated a fundamental lack of understanding humans.
Don’t forget you are on the outside looking in on someone else. You don’t know their lives.